What’s missing? No commands- no possibility of trust. Faithfulness. “Lord, I’ll do everything the Bible says.”. “Having read my little rant you may think that I am against obedience. V, No. Now if you had a fight with a friend ,you failed to forgive him immediately after the fight and you die the next minute , per what you quoted you will surely perish. Our disobedience is equal to the degree that we distrust Him. If the Israelites trusted God they would not have asked for rules. Part of the cost of disobedience is separation. I think we're saved by GRACE. Or was Appostle Paul wrong when he said that we are justified by His Grace apart from our works? Pride isn’t saying “I am better than you”. This really gets to the heart of the matter, doesn’t it. 1. However, when our kids disobey we assume that our kid is acting out. Satan heaps on the condemnation to keep us from feeling like we can come back to God, but that is exactly what Jesus came to destroy – the works of the devil. In eating the forbidden fruit, Adam declared God to be an untrustworthy liar. His blood later revealed its nature crying out for revenge. Casting lots was connected with idolatry. But the most effective change in bringing about disobedience was quite simple – other people disobeying. We should be taking an intentional measure of our child’s stress levels by talking with them on a daily basis. How to share E2R, Copyright © 2021 There is no question. Will we live dependent upon Him or will we try to elevate ourselves to a god of our own making? Simple and full of clarity! This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. It also turns your power over to your child. We need to do some digging to find the real answers to our parenting struggles. I think Doug that given the amount of comments on how freeing this message of Grace is, there are a lot of people out there who do not understand the message and all it entails. Relationship and connection with our children should be at the top of our priorities as parents. . Here are Adam’s questions: Adam was in the dark and that was the whole point. Gentleness. Causes and Impact of Law Avoidance and Disobedience in the Light of Mars Model with Special Reference to Laws for Special Need Persons Vol. The root of disobedience. This is not a issue of logic but evidence and there is plenty of evidence of this sort of teaching on Christian television and in Christian books. This can be just talking and asking questions or doing fun activities together. Jesus has given us a second chance but God demands total obedience. It doesnt look as if he let us wander around in the dark,although I have to admit,a lot of people seem to do that. Losing your cool or entering into a debate or argument with your child undermines your authority. But thank God, I see that I am under total Grace, and there is nothing i can do to earn Gods Favor. What I presented was certainly a caricature, yet I’d bet good money that obedience is most typically taught from the basis of carrots and sticks rather than trust. They refused to continue when told to give electric shocks to the learner when he gave a wrong answer. Law came later. Don’t be impressed by the Israelites’ desire to obey – it was a self-righteous boast in their own strinky performance. Like us, Adam lived in a world of uncertainty. Civil Disobedience, Causes and Implications of Failure Activists called for civil disobedience to coincide with the first anniversary of the Egyptian revolution, with a number of youth figures and movements announcing that civil disobedience is the only option capable of forcing the military to hand over power as soon as possible. Hi Earl But civil disobedience only means anything if you are also willing, like Martin Luther King Jr., to accept being arrested and punished for breaking the law. | 7,946 … Makes me so grateful for what Christ has done for me all over again! I made it up to impress you with my theological jargon. This clarifies why growing to know God is so essential: The fear of God is a major step toward practical godliness. The basic Milgram experiment underwent several variations. Thanks for letting me know. If there is tension in the home because of constant fighting or maybe financial pressures that spill over into your child’s world, they can internalize this as stress causing them to act out. Thanks Paul. Now this all begs the question what did God want us to see in this woman he took out of us.Or what needed to be corrected so that she could be put back, our attitudes changed, enabling us to live in perfect harmony with her and God as one. Parakouo – to close one’s ears to; to ignore. Redemption is not "justification", and neither are salvation. Thanks for that. Using fiery rhetoric and chopped up scriptures he will whip you into an emotional frenzy of promising-making. He’s not testing to irritate you but to simply locate those boundaries so he knows how far to go. Just know that your desire to help your child make better choices is the starting point to healthy change. “Blessification” and i love it! What I am against is flesh-powered Christianity, which is what obedience usually smells like.” “self-blessification” I like these! We forget that they have been greater empires in history before us: African empires, ancient empires like Persian empire, Babylonian, Greek, Roman, British, Russian, and now American empire. I must commend you paul, I am finally taking the time to look through the web site,I dont believe there isnt much that you havent covered, like i have said before,I must have some grace everyday, lest I forget,have you considered putting it on paper,or should I say volumes………….ps, theological jargon reminds me of a old saying………. Jesus is God. A very good friend of mine, a former pastor held on to his faith by a string at one point in his life. John 17:4, 5. I find myself checking my computer 10 times a day looking for new posts. Paul How do I get copies of your books in Ghana. Theres a scripture somewhere that says that the end wont come untill the Word is spread to all areas of the world. Hi Chris That’s because there may be a logical reason for your child not listening. It’s as if we were still under the old law-keeping covenant. “what you misdiagnose, you mistreat” “disobedience follows distrust”. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. The Berean: Daily Verse and Comment. I am not. Jesus has given us a second chance but God demands total obedience. I wholeheartedly believe that as a forgiven people (Col 3:13), we will forgive (Ephesians 4:32). Goodness. And once we’ve accepted we’re forgiven, thats it, we stay forgiven. It’s not even the right story. However Abraham was a bit like us and thought there must be some limitations to God’s willingness and ability to save when surrounded by sin. Faith only in the sufficiency of Christ’s redemptive act is the working presupposition of an abiding posture, which in the New Testament is called “in Christ.” Curses from Disobedience and Sin . great article paul! The same mistranslation also occurs from the original Greek texts of the New Testament where peitho and peitharcheo are translated into respectively, obey and disobey but actually mean… That being said he has never made one rule I had to follow. Quotes from dale carnegie books Post was not sent - check your email addresses! The cross takes away his power to condemn you. The Hyper-Grace Gospel I would say that there is a joyful rest. Trust is not rules and obeying but love, hope and faith. We are still given the same choice as. He may have thought he was safeguarding Eve by “strengthening” God’s command, but Satan knew that his best shot would be in launching an attack on the one who was already deceived. I pick my battles and live to fight another day. Modern Acts of Civil Disobedience. I love the term self-blessification and I will steal it from you. Indeed, they would’ve had abundant life. every citizen must abide by and standing up for a cause. The first commandment God gave was , “Don’t eat from THAT tree.” God trusted man with that command. And the only way those boundaries are effective is if we hold our kids to them. But, for arguments sake, and i’ll use myself as an example, what if i don’t forgive the man who killed my wife? Kindness. Total grace and not your works? According to Amales Tripathi, the main cause of the Civil Disobedience movement was worldwide economic depression during the period 1929-1930. A new post in the Eternal Security Series! Thanks for taking the time to write your blog and take the “heat” at time also. Sign up to our free email list and we’ll notify you about new articles as soon they come out. I mean, every mom is struggling with their teenager, right? And what is the fruit of the Spirit? It’s our responsibility as parents to establish those healthy expectations for our child from very early on. I believe that man was walking in darkness when he left the garden , the law also did not offer life but only magnified the darkness. I think you commit a logical fallacy when you described the “standard obedience sermon.” In all my years of growing and listeing to numerous sermons and pastors I did not get that message. Successful acts serve as inspiration as do failed civil disobedience examples. My view is that Adam played a role in Eve’s deception. I see the metaphor in the Garden. Pride. And the woman. Genetics — a child's natural disposition or temperament and possibly neurobiological differences in the way nerves and the brain function 2. Life isn’t about rules, it’s about relationship. Posted on March 21, 2013 by Paul Ellis // 74 Comments. ( Log Out /  The day Jesus was born light came into the darkness. But God gave us His covering, warm soft comfortable animal skin (Jesus) even back in the Garden? Does that means God won’t accept me? Influenced by social media, Internet, TV, current trends, styles etc. If they had trusted him they would have lived. I totally believe some of the prophecies are happening today. She is the root of all of mans pride, not in her essence, but in mans pursuit to possess her. Kids will always rise to our expectations! Maybe Adam loved her so much he could not bear to live without her, after all being alone with God was not enough he needed a helper, But seriously, thank you for the post, it’s excellent in it’s simplicity. If you have you may wonder, “How does the love of God figure into this?” The preacher of insecurity has a ready answer: “Heed the words of Jesus: ‘If you love me, you will obey what I command’ (John 14:15). Whatever You figure it out. To think that we could be equal….. Grace has shown me that I dont even want to try, but rather to rest in His goodness and enjoy sonship. I am not! Part of being a loving, positive parent is learning to become a detective who looks for clues most people can’t clearly see on the surface. “By introducing uncertainty…” That’s it- the only condition that makes trust necessary. Can you explain? When the English translators of the King James version of the Bible encountered the Hebrew words hupakouo/hupakoe and shema/lishmoa they discovered that there wasn’t an exact English equivalent, so they chose the word hearken in their translations which subsequently became an archaic term and was later changed to obey. So what man separated God put back together in marriage and completes this marriage in heaven. The devil will do what he can to make you disobey because he knows that ‘God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.’. Life is an invitation to respond to the overtures of a God who loves us and desires to share his life with us. At times, it is due to unreasonable parental expectations. Taken together, the meaning of what is now translated obey in the original text of the Bible is more accurately read ‘listen to, thoughtfully consider, and respond to.’ That is a far, far different meaning then the ‘instant obedience’ often held up as the epitome of Christian faith and evidence of love for God and, by extension, the goal of so called ‘Biblical parenting.’. Come back to our Father who’s love has not changed because we distrusted, and disobeyed. Trust is pure vulnerability based on your belief that the other person loves you and would never intentionally cause you pain. I promise. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. There is a common misconception about obedience. Contributed by J. Brad Campbell on Jun 15, 2007. based on 14 ratings. And the wages of sin is death. .and Abraham said to God, “no way you’re going to lay even so much as a finger on Sodom or Gomorah, Lot lives there and I know the covenant you made with me has extended to Lot. To get the right answer, we need to ask the right question: How did Adam fall? also a Fresh Revelation on Blessification lol ! Independent. Again, these may surprise you and help you change your approach to discipline. So many people need to hear this, again and again. “How can God bless a disobedient Christian?” Hi Trevor Well, it seems easy enough to make godly decisions by your teaching, but I believe there are still hard, confusing ones to obey. Kids are smart and will learn what pushes your buttons and what they can say or do to get you to give in out of frustration. Though kids are skilled with the keen ability to set their parents off in a moment’s notice, we don’t have to take the bait. What dont you agree with? If a woman can’t be a husband, she can’t be a pastor, right? Paul, I guess I was raised more in a grace enviroment …in the sense I never felt like I lost God’s love even when I wasn’t living right. If He did, would He not be just as guilty as me for harboring unforgiveness Himself? Try as we might we simply weren’t designed to cope with all that life throws at us. End of story. Do you believe in a God who would condemn me based on that one act of unforgiveness? The Cost of Disobedience Read the Scripture: John 17:4-8 I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do. Joy. I look forward to your next post! What the first Adam lost the second Adam redeemed – not for Himself but for us!! From others, you can learn which strategies work and why. Amen and amen!” Thank God someone kept all the rules and fulfilled them totally so that we can live forever in unbroken fellowship with Him without fear – Honestly can’t think of any better news than this!! It is often so hard to explain to obedience focused christians what the difference is between obedience out of fear (mistrust) and obedience based on faith. Building trust and connection with your child isn’t done overnight and should be a priority for the long haul. Disobedience results in … Is it Jesus plus our forgiveness, our mercy etc? Indeed the devil’s goal is to foster and maintain our distrust of our loving heavenly Father. Curses are the results of disobedience either from self or through the family line. To get to the heart of this obedience issue we need to go back to the Garden of Eden. Or it might be related to the child's temperament, or to school problems, family stress, or conflicts between his parents. And, in the negative form, rather then the word disobedience in the original texts, there is… If we don’t forgive, we will not be forgiven. Disobedience is important to the progression of the world around us, but there are different types of disobedience. If you know your Bible history, you will know that rule-keeping is a recipe for disaster. Learn how your comment data is processed. The Cross is what demonstrates that like nothing else can and it shows He is with us in our suffering.. and through the resurrection demonstrates His power to brings us out of it. Hows it going?? Implication is carrots and sticks. You cannot serve two masters, NEVER. Sin is saying “we don’t need you”. God is to be feared and obeyed.”. But there are days when my toddler wants to wear his Spiderman PJ’s or my daughter doesn’t want to eat what I cooked for dinner. Hupakouo/hupakoe – to hear from above; to listen for; to lend an ear to. It would be interesting to hear what others have to say on this interesting question you have posed!! The latter is easy to fall into if you still have fear in your life and religion. Dependant. What trust and obedience is and what an outward form of obedience without trust is. It really divided the flesh from the spirit for me. Growing up I never thought about it as grace vs law, just that God loved me. Even though God shows mercy in sending his Son to redeem humanity and bring good out of the Fall, he still causes endless misery for the sake of one piece of fruit, and he shows no mercy at all in punishing Satan. Amen! Under this condition of peer rebellion, only 10% of subjects went on to deliver the high… Self-control. How ludicrous to say “I don’t need you”. We reap in areas of disobedience. In fact, we disobey too. Loved this article. out of the few commandments Jesus left us love one another,and love they neighbor as yourself. By Christ's faithfulness that we didn't have the ability to OBEY, the ability to believe, Lord I believe help my unbelief, that He abides faithful when we lack Rom 3:3. Yes God was walking with man , not imparting what was right or wrong (law) but Grace. You have done a sterling job. However, when there’s a lack of trust or connection this can lead to a child acting out. Possible causes include: Sensitivity & emotional change during the age of growing up Influenced by surrounding friends in school, neighborhood etc. Well, if your flesh is strong, you may be singled out as a walking-talking Christian success story. At times, it is due to unreasonable parental expectations. Love this! I was "saved" from a headache today by tylenol. I wanna also add that no one needs permission to disobey, we do pretty fine disobeying without it! Heb 5:8-9 “Although He was a Son, He learned obedience from the things which He suffered. In Genesis 3:2 We see that the woman knows that she can eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden (though the part about eating freely is dropped off), but look what else she thinks God said; verse 3: God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. Awesome ! 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